Saturday, July 2, 2016

TELLLLIIIING LIEEESSS!!.......no pppapa

And i laugh out loud Ha...ha...ha!! seriously. Some days back, I was boasting in front of my better half..."....and i smartly lied and escaped the situation." And while we were giggling about it...from behind, "mamma! why did you lie...when you tell me not to do so?"
For a moment we were speechless and red faced....I was clueless that my little daughter could now understand things so clearly. Somehow, we managed the situation...we were caught; caught lying!!
My little girl's accusation made me ponder.. when i taught her about telling truth, i forgot to tell her a basic one. "LIES" were going to be a part and parcel of her life.
She made me think, as to why do we lie...??i came up with some reasons. Firstly and mostly because we know we are wrong. Secondly, out of fear of the reaction of the third person (be it anger or mockery). Thirdly, when we don't have the patience to make the other person see our viewpoint....
and Lastly, just to avoid the situation. (well, at least these are some reasons i could come up with).
Whatever be the reasons...ultimately we resort to lies....i guess cause its easier. I asked my grandmother in law...she started explaining me about satyug ..kalyug..Mahabharata. According to her it was the effect of kalyug. Another reason, i thought...as she poked me and said sometimes its important to lie...Just that your lie shouldn't harm anyone.
Anyhow, that day when i went to bed my daughter still had the same question on her lips. I distracted her by taking her to an imaginary world of chocolates..( chocolate house..river..trees...flowers etc). I had no answer this time.....maybe when she grows up, life would teach her how, why and when to LIE.

Sunday, June 26, 2016

Being a Homemaker

"Hey you studied so much but you are not working???"...many stay at home mums...would raise their hands, if i ask them have you ever faced this question. I gulp down a lump every time they ask. "They?" who are "they".....yes I'm smiling...they are those people who claim to be your well wishers... but forget to ask you...as in what makes you happy. Dear they, I'm not unhappy...I am a proud home maker...and I'm loving it. Oh! I don't know how it feels like earning thousands...I don't have a per capita income....I,at times...do think, how does it feel to earn and spend those green pastures( money... money).
My income, is in terms of satisfaction that I get by cooking a wonderful meal and every time he(hubby) takes a dakar...oh! dats a bonus!!!When my kid runs and hugs me after a tired day at school.Oooh dat hug is like...."mamma its a relief to see you". Yes I'm immensely fortunate to witness my kids first smile....first walk....I never wanted someone to tell me" didi aaj apki beti hasi"...." didi maine apki beti ko chalna sikhaya"( not that any working woman feels bad about it...cos what is my gain is her pride and sacrifice...she misses all that for the society at large).
Dear "they" I may not be contributing to the practical GDP of the country....but my impractical per capita is at an all time high. "They"....don't mind... knowledge is not measured by how much you earn....its by how much you apply it in your day to day work. Presence of mind, is not only tested in the files that one completes...but also....every time a guest comes in and I'm unprepared....every time my kid refuses to eat...to take bath....yes!!! I complete all my work with atleast an 80%. Like you, I even have bad days and still say myself tomorrow's gonna be perfect.
Dear "they"....I know you are worried about me....but believe me I don't kill mosquitoes all day....well dats actually a very important work also...wow imagine a world free of malaria..dengue!!!.Anyways I also apply my brains all day...and it seems my education was not all that useless...i guess....though i would also, like to receive that package at the end of the month...!!!